Workshop Alum Discussion Group Guide

Writer's Group Guide/Alumnae

Making the Magic Last: Guidelines for our “Stories We Tell” Alumnae Writers’ Groups

After taking part in the “The Stories We Tell,” The Voices and Faces Project’s two-day testimonial writing program for survivors of gender-related violence, workshop alumnae often want to continue meeting as a group. We don’t just encourage that sort of local action — we believe it is essential to keeping the purpose and power of “The Stories We Tell” going long after our workshop team has left your region.

With this in mind, and in response to requests made by past workshop participants, we created Making the Magic Last: Guidelines for “Stories We Tell” Alumnae Writers’ Groups. What follows are suggestions for meeting as an alumnae group, thoughts on what makes for effective “meeting moderation,” ideas for continuing to learn from other social justice and human rights movements, and ways of assuring that alumnae meetings remain writing-focused, productive and trauma-sensitive. With that:

Guidelines for Writers’ Groups

1. Give your writers’ group a clear purpose and agree to group "rules of engagement."

Are you there to share writing? To be a source of support to one another? How often do you plan to meet? How long will your meetings last? “The Stories We Tell” was created to be writing-focused, though of course our personal stories are at the heart of our writing. Still, one of the things you may have noted during the workshop was that our facilitator and instructor (Anne and Clifton) were not afraid to gently guide us back to our writing when the discussion moved into a “group therapy” mode. Staying “on purpose” will help you create a writing-focused space that is compassionate and real, but minimally re-traumatizing. The purpose of your local writers group is yours to determine, of course. But if your goal is to meet as writers, agree to that upfront, and create the conditions for keeping the writers’ group in that space.

2. Choose a moderator to lead the session.

The moderator is tasked with the job of respectfully and firmly redirecting comments and conversations that take the group in a direction that is not writing-focused. If you agree to meetings lasting 90 minutes, that person should also keep the group aware of the time (especially when it is running out). Ideally, the moderator will have experience managing groups (at their place of worship, at work, even in a family setting — and let’s face it, most of us have done plenty of that!). But because you have observe Anne and Clifton moderate, any member of your group may be very good at this. One of our workshop team’s oft-stated philosophies is “Be Kind. But be true.” That means having the courage to keep the group on point, which is the most essential job of the moderator.

3. Think about what writing you wish to share, and how you wish to share it.

You may want to focus on sharing a piece that you are currently working on. Another good idea is to share and discuss writing that is not from group members (something like what we do with the “Stories We Tell” reading packet you received in advance of our two-day workshop). Consider sharing writing that has moved you via email a few days before you meet, and then discuss when the group reconvenes: Why did you want to share this? What can you learn from it? How is this an example of writing that creates change? One of the most important parts of “The Stories We Tell” is our dialogue about writing from other social movements. That global and historical focus may be of interest to your local group.

4. Remember that the first principle of “The Stories We Tell” is that listening is as important — maybe even more important — than speaking.

Be fully present (remember: cell phones off). Actively focus on the writing of others. Think critically, but critique lovingly. Don’t be afraid to talk about the ways that the writing that is shared can be strengthened. Draw connections between the work being read by group members, and other testimonial writing that has moved you. Put another way: listen actively and give actionable feedback.

5. Consider ways that you can integrate “Lived Through This” into your discussions.

A Chicago “Stories We Tell” writing workshop group is currently using Anne’s book, Lived Through This: Listening to the Stories of Survivors of Sexual Violence, to spur dialogue about testimony and trauma. Ask participants to read individual chapters of the book in advance of your meetings, and use it as a catalyst for a dialogue about how to craft stories that are both personal and political.

6. The wind down period is key.

Allow some time at the end of your meetings for closing comments and shared feelings — this is where you move “away from” the writing, and into a space of reflection. Consider a breathing or meditation exercise to end on a positive note. But remember: starting and ending on time is also what gives the group a sense of safety, professionalism, and focus. To stay true to that, make sure to build your wind-down time into your meeting schedule.

7. Be trauma-sensitive at all times.

One of the reasons that our Voices and Faces Project “Stories We Tell” writing workshop is offered with a safe person is that we know that some discussions may be triggering - and that some may need the support of a one-on-one discussion. So we recommend that you consider having a safe person there — ask your local Rape Crisis Center if they can provide one — at least for the first few meetings. At a minimum, have a plan in place for how to handle a situation in which a fellow writer needs support. We want to be there for one another, but we need to also know when professional support is in order.

Thanks, in advance, for using your voice, face and story to create change. One testimony at a time, we truly are changing the world. To find out more about bringing The Voices and Faces Project’s “Stories We Tell” writing workshop to your community, email #TheStoriesWeTell

To find out more about applying for one of our writing workshops, or to bring the “Stories We Tell” program to your community, contact us.

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  • 2017

    October 28-29

    Milwaukee, WI

    October 21-22

    Chicago, IL

    July 23-25

    Chicago, IL

    May 20-21

    New York, NY

    January 14 - 15 2017

    Chicago, IL

  • 2016

    February 6-7, 2016

    San Diego, CA

    September 10-11, 2016

    Seattle, WA
    In partnership Shepherd's Counseling Services

    October 22-23, 2016

    Milwaukee, WI
    In partnership with Mount Mary University Justice Program

    October 29-30, 2016

    Skokie, IL
    In partnership with the Illinois Holocaust Museum and Education Centre
    This program is supported by the Ellie Fund at the Jewish Women's Foundation of Metropolitan Chicago
  • 2015

    October 24-25, 2015

    Evanston, IL

    October 17-18, 2015

    Milwaukee, WI

    July 25-26, 2015

    Skokie IL

    April, 11-12, 2015 

    Prince Edward Island Canada
  • 2014

    November 8-9, 2014  

    Chicago, IL, USA

    October 18-19, 2014

    Milwaukee, WI
    Mount Mary University USA

    June 21-22, 2014  

    Watson Hall, Columbia University
    612 W. 115th st. , USA

    April 5-6, 2014

    Winnipeg Art Gallery (WAG) 300 Memorial Boulevard Winnipeg, MB, Canada

    January 18-19, 2014

    Davenport, IA, USA
  • 2013

    November 30—December 1, 2013 

    Calgary, Alberta,
    Canada (WordFest Literary Festival)

    October 5—6, 2013 

    WI (Mt. Mary College)
  • 2012

    November 10—11, 2012 

    Rape Victim Advocates
    Chicago, IL USA

    June 1—2, 2012 

    Sexual Assault Center of Edmonton
    Edmonton, BC, Canada

    April 12, 2012 

    Chicago Cultural Center
    Chicago, IL USA
    in partnership with the Neighborhood Writing Alliance and CAASE

    March 10—11, 2012 

    Mt. Mary College
    Milwaukee, WI, USA
    in partnership with the Mt. Mary Justice Department
  • 2011

    April 14—15, 2011 

    Cleveland Rape Crisis Center
    Cleveland, Ohio, USA

    March 26—27, 2011: 

    Chicago Cultural Center
    Chicago, IL USA
    in partnership with Art Works for Change

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